My last year's favorite reads & sees - part 1 (books)

One of my very favorite blogposts to read are the ones covering the writer’s personal recommendations regarding books, series and movies. In my humble, maybe slightly nerdy opinion, you can never have enough must-reads on your to-read list, or must-sees on your to-watch list. I love reading (and writing, for that part! :D) reviews, but lists are even better. I just can’t seem to get enough of them, probably because there always seems to be at least one title I haven’t seen or read before that really appeals to me. Oh, the excitement!

So, this nice little idea formed in my head to write my own list of favourite reads and sees in 2014 (even though we’re already well into 2015), and maybe make it an annually returning thing. To contribute a bit to the excitement of fellow book-worms and serie-junkies, perhaps. I must admit that the amount of things I read and watched in 2014 isn’t very impressive, probably because I was just really busy preparing (and subsequently living out) our big trip. However, as soon as we moved into our campervan back in November last year, stopped working and started traveling around, my reading pace increased almost exponentially (and so did Mark’s). Really, we keep stopping at secondhand bookstores and book-exchange shops and libraries having a sale…we even have a real, decent bookshelf in our van! It sits above the front seats, our van is quite high. This particular piece of space was still unused when we ‘moved in’, and everyone who has ever lived in a van knows that unused space has no right of existence. So Mark filled it up with a book shelf barely a week after we started living in the vehicle. Of course :)

Our book shelf, right above the front seats :)

My ‘watching pace’ (regarding series and movies) stayed more or less the same though since we moved into the van. We watch something on many nights of the week, but we can only do that with the power of the second car battery, which is limited. Believe me, you can nót use the little fridge, charge your camera and phones, use the sewing machine and watch a movie at night on one charged car battery (and don’t get me started on when we don’t drive during the day….because that means no charged car battery at all!). So where I used to watch a lot of stuff while crafting for example, we try to limit our time on the laptops now, resulting in a slight shift towards more old-fashioned analogue reading and a bit less digital watching.

However, back to 2014, and my little list. Although, 'little'...? I started putting it together, and it wasn't long before I ended up with a huuuuge post (as usual, of course...sorry folks!). So I decided to split it up in three parts: books, series and movies. Here's the first part, the one about books. I hope you enjoy it and maybe find one or two titles that get you excited. And please, please let me know your favorites as well. You know what: why don’t you comment with the best book and/or movie and/or series you have seen in 2014?!

BOOKS:

Quiet – by Susan Cain

This book was SO good, it bumped right up to a high spot on my to-re-read list. I kept having aha! moments while reading it, and I’m pretty sure I forgot half of them, so next time when I’m reading this book my notebook will be lying next to me.

'Quiet' deals with introversion. Susan managed to give a very informative and easy-to-read overview of a large amount of scientific research that has been conducted on this specific trait over the last couple of decades (most times in combination with extraversion of course…did you know that the contradictive introvert/extravert groups are about the only personality traits that therapists and scientist all over the world agree on? Seemingly éveryone will fit more or less into one of both groups, no matter what country or culture you’re coming from, in contrast to the many many other personality categories professionals have come up with over the years). The research that Susan processed into her book is not limited to the psychological field; obviously there have been quite some studies going on about introversion/extraversion in relation to the work field (do you think open offices, teamwork and brainstorming really work as well as many people claim they do?), school, religion, etc., all with véry interesting results.

The book explains a bit about how we went from a society in which introversion was highly valued, to the nowadays world in which extraversion seems to be the norm; we are all expected to ‘sell’ ourselves, even if we don't have a job as a salesman or entertainer or whatsoever. Another fascinating part of the book deals with the contrast between the western world (more extraverts) and the Asian world (more introverts). Ever wondered how that happened? I for sure did!

‘Quiet’ is not a self-help book in the first place, it’s more of a study read, combined with a well argued plea to create more space and acceptance for introverts in the western world…something everyone might profit from, from single persons to complete businesses, from the fields of art to those of science. However, Susan does dedicate some chapters to tips and advice for introverts ánd extraverts, backed up by the studies she so thoroughly researched.

This book highly enraptured my curious and deeply introvert soul. No, I’m not shy, but yes, I’m definitely an introvert. And yes, I dó like socializing, but no, it doesn’t give me energy or recharges me, like it does for extraverts…in fact it decharges me! Like I said, the amount of aha! moments were countless, and to read such a well funded plea for a shift towards a more equal validation of both introverts and extraverts was simply heartwarming. Don’t hesitate to pick up this book though if you’re an extravert yourself: you won’t be punished (read that ‘equal validation’ bit in the previous sentence?! Both traits have their positive and negative sides!)...besides the fascinating information on this specific aspect of human psychology - which Susan delivers in her very well written, understandable way - you might actually find a new bit of useful insight in your own loved ones (you know, those quiet ones).

Pastrix – by Nadia Bolz-Weber

I’ve always had a thing for biographies and memoirs, a thing that seems to have only grown bigger over the years. Some people have just súch an interesting story to tell! Of all the books I read in this category in 2014, “Pastrix – the cranky, beautiful faith of a sinner & saint” was my definite favorite (although Rachel Held Evan’s ‘Evolving in Monkey Town’ was a great second one).

Pastrix tells the story of Nadia, who grew up in an Evangelicalist home. Church was about the only place she felt welcome and not laughed at, despite her weird looks (her eyes were protruding like an insect, due to some kind of thyroid disease). Still, Nadia developed what she calls a ‘bullshit radar’ (a talent to sense hypocrisy and other crap going on) at a fairly young age already, which made her leave church when she became a young adoloscent…even though that meant she also turned her back on that acceptance she so desperately craved.

From there on, her journey is a wild ride, involving alcohol addiction, drug abuse, casual sex, odd jobs and a whóle lot of sarcasm. She tries out other forms of communities, still longing for that sense of belonging: she hangs out with wiccans, tries as hard as she can to be a Unitarian (at which she miserably fails) and becomes a kind of stand-up comedian, having that huge talent for sarcasm. Her friends are society’s nobodies: drug and alcohol addicts, members of the LGBT community, the depressed and the oppressed ones that just don’t belong.

Along the way, she manages to sober up (she starts going to the AA-meetings more or less because ‘it would be nice to manage drinking without having the throw up the next morning all the time’) and even finds herself a nice guy, whom she will later marry.

When one of her very close friends (a fellow comedian and poker-club attendee) ends up killing himself, other friends ask Nadia to lead his memorial service. That’s the moment when she starts feeling like she is being called to become a ‘pastor’ for her people. A calling that she doesn’t like at all, and feels hopelessly inadadequate for as well. 

“I felt like I was on a path toward self-destruction and God pulled me off of it by the scruff of my collar, me hopelessly kicking and flailing and saying “Screw you, I’ll take destruction please!”. God looked at tiny little red-faced me and said: “That’s adorable” and then plunted me down on an entirely different path.”

She can’t shake off the feeling of that calling, and from that moment on, she – quite reluctantly – starts finding out what it exactly means to be that pastor (or, in the female form: a pastrix). Despite herself she finds a love that she can’t resist, one that she can’t help but share with her ‘nobodies’.

I am absolutely in love with the raw honesty of this book. Nadia is straight forward, talks like a sailor sometimes (if I gave you the idea that Nadia’s memoir is a bit floaty, full of vague ‘oh I found the light’ shit: it’s anything but! Nadia didn’t loose her talent for sarcasm, she often uses it in quite a humorous way), but has a very pure and honest heart. She tells you about her failing attempts and flawed motives, the things most of us like to keep hidden in darkness. Well, Nadia doesn’t do that, she brutally shoves it all into the light. With that kind of attitude, she manages to create a place where people who don’t belong can feel home, welcome, and pastored (is that even a word?!): The House for all Sinners and Saints. A place that almost bursts with its love for the depressed, the junkies, the addicts, the lesbians and the gays and the transgenders, the homeless and simply everyone who longs for acceptance and hope.

I find 'conversion books', about people like Nadia - people who seem to be the most ínadequate candidates for whatever kind of faith or spirituality, but who still find something despite themselves - incredibly fascinating. Besides the interesting psychology behind conversions, it somehow gives me a reason for hope. No matter what background you’re coming from; Christian or Jewish or Muslim or atheist or agnost or whatever: give this book a try. We áll know the universal longing to be accepted, and the need to have hope. Really, if I can let you read only one book of this list, let it be this one…you won’t regret it!

The Rosie Project – by Graeme Simsion

I liked this unique novel so much, that I already wrote a review on it, which you should definitely check out if you want to find out more about this heartwarming book. I also found the cutest desktop wallpaper (by Pop! Goes the Reader) inspired by it!

Recently I was very happily surprised when I found out that Graeme actually came up with a sequel a little while ago: The Rosie Effect (don’t you just love it when you unexpectedly discover that one of your favorite authors published a new book, or that one of your favorite books got turned into a movie? That feeling!). Of course the sequel is very high on my to-read list for 2015!

The Secret History – by Donna Tartt

I really like books that take place in a university setting. I don’t know why, but somehow it forms the perfect setting for a good story. The old buildings, the intellectuality, the growing-up, the social dynamics…the fresh blood that comes in every year, while so many traditions and conspiracies have been going on for centuries at the same time.  ‘The Secret History’ has all those ingredients and more: a couple of well worked-out main characters to carry a suspenseful story full of intrigues, coming of age and a double murder. Narrator and main character of the story is Richard Papen, a very ordinary boy from a lower class background, who tells the events from the moment he starts attending Hampden College. It is there that he finds himself deeply intrigued by a clique of five sophisticated young adults, who study Classics under the guidance of charismatic, eccentric professor Julian Morrow. To his own surprise, Richard is slowly accepted by the insular group. Flattered and delighted he tries to fit in as well as he can, unaware of the disastrous consequences their joint behavior will eventually result in. 

I found this mosaic inspired by 'The Secret History' on tumblr,
unfortunately I have no idea who to credit...but it captures the
book's atmosphere perfectly!

This is one of those books that completely sucks you into it’s stifling ambience (if you like that university setting just as much as I do), with its little group of eccentric characters that more or less separated themselves off society, or rather, as they like to think: rose up above it. Donna lets you taste that intoxication, that spell they’re all under. There’s not always a lot of action going on, but even those slower chapters contribute to the books sweltering atmosphere. Guilt and responsibility are the major psychological themes worked out in this novel, the first one I ever read of Donna Tartt. Some more works of her hand are on my to-read list for 2015!

The Silo Saga – by Hugh Howey

Another one that I already wrote a review on (check it out here). When I wrote that review, I had only just read the first book of the series though, while by now I have finished the complete trilogy…something I can definitely reccomend to anyone who likes a good, exciting read with a tiny bit of sci-fi, some suspense and a decent story line. A comparison with the Hunger Games is quickly made, although I’d really call the Silo Saga more mature. The second book is quite different from the first one, with a slower pace and lots of flashbacks. It dives deeper into the rise of that curious Silo world Hugh Howey created, and with that, it starts answering many questions risen after finishing the first book. This makes the second book a bit a less exciting, but at least as interesting a read. The third book will bring you back full on to the tension of book number one, while book number two left just enough questions unanswered to keep you wondering (and turning the pages!) till the very end. I can't wait for these books to be turned into movies...yes, film rights have been sold to 20th Century Fox, and the first movie 'Wool' should be released in 2015!

Okay, that's it for the books. Stay tuned for the series and the movies, and don't forget to comment with your own favorite ones!